One More Step

Four years ago, when the New York State Legislature voted for marriage equality, I received the news with a mix of joy and sadness, relief and regret. I was so excited that justice, equality, and love won that day – but I missed my partner Tricia terribly; when she died in 1998, marriage was a …

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Remembrances on Maundy Thursday

“Take this bread, broken as my body is broken…eat this, in remembrance of me…” Eat this, in remembrance of Jesus, a teacher, a pastor, a radical, a beloved son whose body was broken by a system that could not bear his truths. Eat this, in remembrance of Sharon, the coworker whose body was broken one …

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At Sixes and Sevens

I love words – I am always on the lookout for a particularly elegant word or turn of phrase, and I like being able to use words well. So it sets my teeth on edge when I am unable to find the right word for something. I search and search my brain, but the word …

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Remembering

My memory is a little messed up. In 2007-early 2008, I had severe back problems and was on pretty heavy pain meds for about 18 months. Within that year, I had three surgical procedures, each one requiring general anesthesia. As I came out of that time period feeling much better and reemerging into the world, …

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Thus Do We Covenant

When I submitted the week’s topic last month, Covenant seemed like a good, fairly neutral way to explore our faith and our relationship to one another. It seemed like a good discussion to have as we embark on the new church year. And then last week, the bad news started pouring in. Another in a …

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I didn’t know what to say then.

This is a post I should have written a month ago, when Rev. Jennifer Slade took her life – a beautiful, brilliant, humanity-affirming life. Her death was shocking and jarring. But I didn’t write then, perhaps because while she was a colleague, I didn’t know her personally and didn’t know how to parse it. I didn’t know …

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Moving Forward

I am pretty sure I was not the only person headed for a pulpit this morning who let out an extra moan after hearing the verdict in the Zimmerman trial. In the midst of weeping for the Martin family, for our young black men, and the failed justice system…and after a while weeping also for …

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Struggling with Certainty

Whenever I encounter an article, photo album, site, or video I don’t have time or ability to view at the moment, I email the link to myself and shove them into a folder called “internet for later.” I always intend to go to the folder as soon as I can to see what I saved …

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“Just By Being You”

Moments after two bombs went off at the finish line of the Boston Marathon yesterday, my Twitter and Facebook feeds were filled with prayers and information (and, sadly, misinformation). But a few moments after that, my feed began to fill up with the comforting words and image of Fred Rogers – in particular, this one: …

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Sharing the Love

Love is a way of life. It should be how we make our way in the world. And truth be told, we should be preaching love EVERY Sunday. I think at our best, those who are fortunate enough to fill Unitarian Universalist pulpits each week, are preaching love every Sunday. But sometimes we need to …

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Thankful.

Today, on this national day of Thanksgiving, I am especially thankful for My nephew Tom’s continuing recovery and his now home with the ‘rents. The many hours in the kitchen with Mom learning her methods and recipes – they keep her with me. A growing and focusing sense of purpose. My crazy, devoted, outrageous, loving …

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Freedom for Joy

There’s a lot of talk about freedom and liberty these days, and whenever I hear the word freedom, my mind instantly goes to Franklin Delano Roosevelt’s Four Freedoms and the beautiful interpretations by Normal Rockwell. In his 1941 state of the union address, FDR proposed people “everywhere in the world” ought to enjoy: Freedom of …

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Reflections on September 11

The following remarks were delivered at the Time of Remembrance and Renewal at the Round Lake Auditorium on the evening of September 11, 2011.   We gather here today, in our community, among friends and neighbors, to mark perhaps the most momentous event in our collective memory. We gather to remember those who lost their lives, to …

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